...We went into a garden to have a first-class solitude time to ourselves and to settle some sensitive issues, after minutes of profound arousing discussions, she asked for my hand and held it so tight, then, she gave an intense affectionate look into my eyes, mentioned my name quixotically and said, “I love you so much & I will never leave you.”
Oh! Those words sounded so real & genuine. You can imagine the surge which went through my nerves when I heard those words. About five weeks
after the meeting in the garden, fortunately/ unfortunately, we brought a sudden and unexpected end to the relationship that seems to be heaven made. To be precise, the two parties sustained a heartbreak injury.
That is a recount of my dazzling experience when I went into a relationship guilelessly. Truthfully, at
that time I threw myself into it without knowledge and understanding, and like Apostle Paul, I can audaciously say “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”
Perhaps the story bears a resemblance
with yours, you’ve been jilted, neglected and embarrassed out of a relationship you cherished & treasured so much. You’ve given your best into a relationship you trusted nothing is going to be wrong with it. But suddenly, you couldn’t meet up withthe terms that bounded the relationship; to your partner you suddenly became naive at the things you’ve be the best, you heard such words like “you’re so disgisting, I don’t like you anymore, I don’t think I will be able to continue with this relationship, we’ve had our better days” or for some reasons known to the two
of you, you decided to put a hasty end to what seems to be a
Sure, things like that happen, you’re not the first neither are you the last that will have a capsized relationship. Jilting has started long before now, and people will continue to jilt and we’ll always have victims, until they’ve come into cognisance of the beauty of relationship. (‘the who’, ‘the why’,’ and the when’)
Whenever I see people who have sustained a heartbreak injury and are trying to live in the reality a shattered affair, I feel a burning zeal on the inside, I always wished I have some power to help stage a reconcile, (I try, if necessary anyway, but, most times if not all are always beyond my mediation)
Many of us have had our share of heartbreaks, - once not twice, we’ve experienced first class infatuation, we’ve been in that situation when the
whole world seem crushing and we want the grounds to open and probably swallow us or that a whirlwind should come and carry us to another side of the world where we’ll never have a chance to think of what has just happened.
We’ve been in situations where we don’t want to see anyone around us – not even parents or any other family members, we don’t like to talk to no
one and often times, we prefer to stay in the confines of our rooms, we don’t want to step out just because of one outbreak
Heartbreaks seize our appetite and make food become a complex entity so hard to devour; we lost our sleeps and as we lay on our bed, we gaze with wide open eyes into the ceiling compartments and make repeated counts; we get under a lot of stress, because, the body goes through loads of chemical reactions to releases ‘ cortisol ’ a chemical which makes it difficult to
make the body rest and think properly.
Heartbreaks had on so many occasions led to mental illness and suicide. It will be so hard to dispute the fact that heartbreak has led to so many serious
complicated health problems too.
Mr David Nicholas said about love “Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defences; you build up a whole suit of armour, so that nothing can hurt you, then, one stupid person, not different from any other person, wanders into your stupid life... you give them a piece of you. They didn’t ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn’t yours anymore.
Love takes hostages.It gets inside you. It hurts you and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like ‘maybe we should just be friends’ turns into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul – hurt, a real of it gets inside you and rips you apart (in) pain. I hate love”
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