Thursday, 11 June 2015

Star's Rough Paths to Success



Someone once said there is no definite path to success. While some took the long road, others took the short cuts, some took the elevators and there are many more that would travel the road and never get to their destinations. Here, 2Face Idibia, Waje, Yemi Alade and Cynthia Morgan share their trying times on the road to success:


I used to pose as a military man to avoid paying transport fares2face


International superstar and Nigerian music icon 2Face Idibia is one of Africas most successful modern musicians and a bona fide global superstar with a huge fan base extending from Nigeria, across Africa, Europe to Asia. He recently sat down for a #MySuperStarStory session where he spoke about the genesis of his career as a recording artiste. He revealed that he dropped out of school to move to Lagos and chase a career in music. At the time he said, even money to eat was a problem. When I came to Lagos, moving around in the city was only possible by taking Molue and Danfo buses. Sometimes, I would even pretend to be a member of the armed forces to avoid paying the transport fare. On some of these occasions, I would then be thrown off the bus for not having enough transport fare he says. This situation persisted until his initial break with defunct boy band Plantashun Boiz. He further described his first album Face2Face as his big breakthrough. In his words, There is this thing called Luck in life. But luck is not always there. So you dont have to wait for luck. You have to start building yourself. But dont ever think that anything good comes easy.


Someone once threw away my demo CD in my presence Waje


She is one of Nigerias foremost R&B singers with a powerful voice, which covers three octaves. She has worked with industry A-listers such as P- Square, Banky W and MI and she has built up a huge portfolio of critically acclaimed and commercially successful works. But Waje, born Aituaje Vivian Iruobe recently revealed that here were difficult and heartbreaking periods at the time when she was unknown and struggling. She disclosed this when she sat down for a #MySuperStarStory interview. With a wry smile on her face, she recounted an experience in Onitsha. She said, I walked up to somebody. I was like Hey, my name is Waje and I just want to be out there, because I just wanted their encouragement. I gave them my demo and they held the demo, and in just a split second that I looked away, I turned back and the guy had flung my CD away. She described her turning point as starting in 2011, since when she says, it has been a steady progression that has been made possible by the grace of God.


I had to buy fuel for studios to record my songs Yemi Alade


For anyone who follows African music, the Looking for my Johnny song is easily one of the biggest tracks of 2014 with over 20 million views on YouTube and a remix in French as it became an anthem across Nigeria and West Africa. To pop diva Yemi Alade however, this song was more than just a successful track. It was a life changer the culmination of years of struggle and thankless toil. She recently sat down for a #MySuperStarStory session where she shed light on her journey in music up to this point. She revealed that for years, she had to beg for free studio time because she did not have a dime to pay for recording. According to her, there were even times when she would have to scrape some money together to buy fuel to run the studio generator before she could be recorded. Her turning point, she said, was Johnny which changed her life forever. God brought that song my way without telling me He was going to bless me she said with a large smile across her face.



I didnt watch TV until I was ten Cynthia Morgan


If a group of people are asked to name the undisputed queen of Nigerian ragga/dancehall, the name Cynthia Morgan will surely come up many times. The energetic singer with her trademark red hair has become a reference point for the Nigerian Dancehall genre. However, she has not always had it this good and in fact her rise from obscurity to fame has not been easy or straightforward at all. She recently sat down to reveal her life story during a #MySuperStarStory interview. The Edo State-born entertainer revealed that she did not watch TV until she was about ten years old due to her conservative Jehovah Witness background. After recording her first 6-track demo album at the age of 16, despite people recognizing her talent, she was often discouraged by her friends who mocked her dream of making it as a singer in Lagos and told her that she would return to Benin in no time. Today, she says, those friends are her biggest fans. Giving thanks to God for how far she has
come, Cynthia Morgan also noted that throughout her journey, despite obstacles such as discrimination and discouragement, she was sustained by her faith in God and her faith in herself, which made her thick skinned.

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Two Student Lovers Found Dead In Hostel After Using Sex Enhancing Drugs


Two students of a University in Anambra State were found dead in a hostel room located near their school, according to a report by Daily Independent . (the late lovers pictured pictured above)
The female student is from Imo State.
She visited her boy friend and they went in together on Saturday but never woke up until their doors were forced open by the police after a neighbor raised the alarm. The male student was 300level student of public administration. They allegedly died after sex romp and their neighbors never knew until their bodies
started decomposing.

The guy allegedly drugged the girl to have access to free sex which resulted to her death and he equally took the pills and lay beside her.

Special Anti Robbery Squad (SARS) from
Awkuzu removed both bodies and deposited then at an undisclosed morgue. The Police Public Relation Officer (PPRO), DSP Uche Ezeh while reacting to the incident said investigations were ongoing to ascertain the veracity of the case but confirmed the incident while charting with Daily Independent Metro.


Source: Daily Independent

Osun Is In A Mess, By Wale Fatade

Osun Is In A Mess, By Wale Fatade

Ogbeni Rauf Aregbesola

Let’s say it the way it is: no matter how the Osun State governor and his supporters spin it, the state is in a mess. A big mess for that matter, with something close to apocalypse going on in my home state unless we don’t want to speak truth to the government.


Last September after Governor Rauf Aregbesola’s victory at the polls, this column, in an open letter congratulated him for a hard-fought electoral battle
where he dug in and defeated the Peoples Democratic Party blitzkrieg. Unfortunately, he has not displayed the same energy in facing the poverty monster ravaging the state. Perhaps nowhere is this more evident than in Aregbesola’s government failure in paying civil servants’ salaries in the state.


At the moment, the All Progressives Congress-led government owes seven months salary arrears with civil servants on strike and the machinery of the state in coma only being sustained by a life support machine. Three different incidents show the level of degradation ongoing in Osun.


First was a suicide attempt by a local government staff last month that could not keep up with the demands of life as a husband and father. Fortunately, he was stopped before he could carry out his intention but this did not stop a spokesperson of the governor from saying that there was no nexus between the suicide attempt and non-payment of
salaries. The second one was an encounter I had with an octogenarian in Abuja few weeks back. He told me of how he and a friend went to visit their old senior in secondary school in Osogbo, the state capital, and they met his private schools under lock. Shocked by this, they asked why he decided to close the schools to which he responded that students could not afford to pay fees because their parents have not been paid just as it was getting difficult for him too to keep up with financial obligations. The third was that of a pastor requesting that members of his congregation should bring food items and money for those who have not been paid their salaries. Apart from the personal encounter, the other two were well reported in the media. But what happened to the lofty ideas and dreams of our dear governor? What happened to the dream of turning Osun into a food basket for the western part of Nigeria?


What about the Dagbolu international
market? By now, the governor must have discovered that governance is more than sloganeering and singing solidarity song across the length and breadth of the state. As commendable as infrastructural development is and Aregbesola’s government tried along this line, nothing sums up his government more than the expression: good intention gone awry.


Wonder who or what pushed him to build a cargo airport in the state? It is clear that he has not been served well by his cabinet, especially the former finance commissioner. As at January this year, the governor presented a budget of N197billion to the House of Assembly, which adjusted it upward to
N201.74billion to cover for the non-
inclusion of salaries of the middle school teachers. Did the government not want to pay these teachers when it re-classified schools?


Students sat for WASCE and NECO
examinations without having the benefit of teachers preparing them for those examinations. An analysis of the 2015 budget also revealed that N18.6 billion was budgeted for the Governor’s office with N6.925billion for recurrent
expenditure and N11.7billion for capital
expenditure. Interestingly, N2billion is
meant to pay salaries of the governor,
deputy governor, judges and the state
independent electoral commission that
has not conducted any election since its
inception. There’s also a provision of
N1.159billion for salaries, allowances,
remuneration of career officers and
political office holders in the governor’s
office while N3.775billion is for general
administration of bureaus and agencies in the governor’s office. While inaugurating the House of Assembly last week, Aregbesola said that he was the first to raise the alarm about dwindling allocation to the states in 2013, yet his government went ahead to propose a budget of N197billion for 2015.

How did he hope to finance it without a
corresponding increase in the revenue of the state? The Nation newspaper of
January 27 reported an official of the
state saying that the budget will be
implemented. “Government of the State of Osun has said despite the dwindling
resources of the state, its 2015 budget is
implementable, as all the machinery have been put in place to ensure its
implementation. The Permanent Secretary, Budget and Economic Planning, Mr Segun Olorunsogo stated this on Tuesday while giving an overview of the 2015 budget estimates before the joint House of Assembly Committee on Finance and Appropriation and Public Accounts.” By
the way, what about the helicopter
purchased for security surveillance in the state? What better security than the
welfare of citizens, especially the workers who are being denied their due?


Culled From: http://www.thecable.ng

Wednesday, 10 June 2015

Akon starts Solar Academy for Africa

International pop star Akon recently opened a 'Solar Academy' in Mali,reports Pulse.ng.

The aim of the academy is to pioneer advances in solar technology by educating engineers who will bring electricity to rural parts in Africa. This is part of his plans to bring electricity to 600 million people in Africa with his charity Akon Lighting Africa established in 2014. Akon recently collaborated on a song with Davido

Monday, 8 June 2015

I Walked from Ojoo to Apete selling Clippers – SOUL





Adedotun Amosan, the Ibadan Most Love On Air Personality and host of Serenade Show aka Confession time on Oluyole 98.5FM had a sketchy beginning to broadcasting. In this interview I had with him, he shares his experience and what growing up was like for him among other things.

Who is Soul?

My name is Adedotun Amusan, I was born to the family of Mr. & Mrs. Amusan. I happen to be the only child of my mother. I was bred here in Ibadan, I grew up around Akobo and I grew up with a number of notable people - the likes of the sons of Alafin Adetona Adeyemi, his brother who was the former caretaker chairman of Atiba local government and a number of other people.
 I went to Subola Memorial Nursery and Primary School. I graduated from there and moved to Ikolaba Grammar School, I left Ikolaba Grammar School for Basorun Ojoo High School. From there I got admission to the Federal Polytechnic, Offa to study Marketing that was in 1999.Incessant strikes, indigenenes against non indigenes fights in the school did not help matters, so I graduated in 2003 with National Diploma. I joined broadcasting in 2004. A friend of mine invited me into broadcasting after he discovered that I can talk very well, which is very true.
Being the only son of my mother, she was a bit skeptical about me going into broadcasting, to her she though broadcasting will really get me prone to the world, and that she doesn’t want for her only child. She stood her ground and it was challenging for me but people stood by me; the likes of Mrs. Laitan Adesesan, Opeyemi Orimolade and Mr. Yemi Sohunde. The fact that I came into the job free of charge (FOC)was also a factor that she picked up and she said ‘why would you work in a place where you are not even paid?’ Mrs Laitan Adesesan spoke with her and she was eventually allowed me. 
While I was on the job, remember I said I studied marketing, I needed something to fit into the job, I decided to go for another course at the University of Ibadan. I put in for linguistics I graduated from there and here I am today.

What was growing up like for you

I must be sincere being the only child growing up wasn’t easy. If I’d grown up in places like Aremo, Itamerin, Bere, Oje and the likes it might have been better because in those places there is nothing like ‘gate house, get inside, don’t go out.’ I stopped being a get inside boy recently. My mother was overprotective of me. She will never allow me to go to a party that a mother father son should go. I was always feeling bad; I thought she was just wicked. It was very recently that I realize she was only protecting me in her own way.
I remember I have neighbours who will not want me in their apartment, they use to have to a crowded home unlike mine, but their mother will stylishly isolate me and make gestures that show I’m not wanted in their house. I used to ask myself why their mother does that. It wasn’t as if I steal, I was the only child so I had everything to myself. I grew up being a lonely person; I talked to myself, and soliloquize a lot. I still do that today, I still soliloquize a lot.


Studying marketing and ending up talking to the microphone appears uncorrelated. What really pushed you into broadcasting?

At first when I was studying marketing, I thought it was the end of the world, I felt it was the best discipline to practice and I did practice. Besides, as a person, I harness whatever opportunity that comes my way. Upon graduating from Federal Polytechnic, Offa, I worked with a multilevel marketing company where we do corporate hawking. You suit up with your tie and then carry your bag, walk the streets and sell; I was selling clippers. Again, my mum was against it though. We were comfortable, she was an accountant with the Water Corporation and she couldn’t stand her only son hawking, but I felt since I studied marketing, why can’t I sell. I went around merchandising clippers, I’ll sweet talk my customers and they will buy. There was a day I trekked from Ojoo to Apete merchandising clippers. Eventually, I moved from that firm and I started my own marketing firm with N10, 000, I was selling the same product and within 3-4months the money rose to N120, 000. I sold to vice Chancellors and accountants, I moved to Lagos then to Bayelsa, Abuja and some major cities in Nigeria selling clippers. There was something that gave me an edge while I was selling that was my ability to speak good English. I hear people say that this guy sells clippers because of unemployment;some of my customers even buy out of pity.
Soon after that, I stopped selling clippers because I tried leaving the country, I pumped the money into plans to travel out, but that didn’t work out.Itwas after that I moved into broadcasting and some of my bosses will come to me and give commendations, I felt I wasn’t doing bad and I have never regretted it.

How did you come about your Radio name – Soul?

Most of the people I grew up with had nicknames, my friend who introduced me to broadcasting was black prince, I have another friend who is called razor and so many like that. My small pocket dictionary was my close companion then, it was small and not detailed so I came across the word soul one day which means ‘one and only’ and being the one and only of my parents, I picked it and brought it into broadcasting as well.
What the brain behind the program serenade?

I’ll start by saying serenade is my own way of giving back to the society. The society has given us so much that we are not giving back to it. I was brought to handle the evening belt of programs at the station and then I thought within myself that the people are always calling the radio station, what can I do to be the one calling them, then the idea of people calling me, telling me their problems and I make live calls on radio, make the call a bit hilarious and then mediate on their issue. I shared the idea with my boss, Opeyemi Orimolade who jumped at it and polished it.

How will you appraise the program since it started?

I won’t’ like to blow my trumpet, but what gives me joy is not the noise but when people say I have been able to help them resolve their issues and they are doing well in their relationship. You know how joyous I will be whenever I attend wedding ceremonies of those I match make? I have been able to master the wedding ceremony of about six to seven of them.I have intervened infamilyissues, fightsbetween mum and daughter etc and it brings full satisfaction when you are successfully mediating in issues like this. Still I'll saywe aren’t there yet, but we are getting there gradually.

What are the frustrations and challenges you have faced in the course of doing this?

The challenges are enormous. The call card I use on radio, sometimes N5, 000, at times N3, 000, I get them myself. Sometimes I might not have cash on me and the program will have to go onair. You know when you spend that much, you are bound to ask questions like are you really OK? Why would you spend that much calling people you don’t even know?’ but I am getting off that level and we are still expecting sponsors.

Again, the problem you face with people can be so challenging.Somepeople can be highly disrespectful, full of insults and naughty on the phone. I remember calling a girl and the first thing I heard is “who is the stupid idiot calling me?’ I was shocked. People listening to me could read it and they told me I got angry. I later made resolutions that I will never get angry again and that decision has even helped my personal life.

Another challenge is the fact that the job is very tasking, it requires that you think on the spot and say the right words at the right time. You know sometimes people who call don’t give you full details about the person they want you to call for them, so you have to be very calculative. Worst of all is phone calls. Having to manage phone calls outside the studio is hell. You have calls disturbing you all through the day, even at night, and it is like there is no time that you have to yourself.

Can any challenge be big enough to pull you out of broadcasting?

Not at all. I have married the job, for better and for worse, I am on.

Your projections for the next 3- 5 years

It has been strong on my mind to have a radio station. So I’ll give it to that. Again, I am longing to get more international recognition, I’ve got it but I want more and that might require that I leave the country to get international trainings and further studies.

How do you manage your social life?

I am not really social. I don’t drink, I don’t smoke. I have had instances when ladies walk up to me and ask are you really the Soul we listen to on radio? Are you sure you are Soul? I ask why, and they will tell me they were expecting to see a ‘fine boy’. Am I not handsome? They will tell me it’s not that you are not handsome, but…
The day I got Professor Bolanle Awe’s award was about the most embarrassing day of my life. Four on- air-personalities were given awards but my ovation was the loudest. I almost fell when I was walking to the podium it was at that point I decided to work on my appearance and composure.

What’s your favourite food?

Oooo mine!!! ‘Oka ni.’ Give me amala and abula in the morning, afternoon and night provided there is meat and fish, I will not resist. It is my best food any time any day.

Can you prepare it?

Why not? I am the only child of my mum, she taught me how to prepare any kind of food and I am not bad in cooking.

You must be proud of your mother?

I am who I am because of her, her prayers, disciplines and training brought me this far. I love her so much.

Final words to your fans

Like I always say, you are the reason while I am here, if you are not there I won’t be behind the mic. I love you so much. As for many who are aiming to be successful OAPs too, I will rather advice you to discover yourself, stay close to your passion and then you build on your strength and work on your weakness. I love my fans so much.


Sunday, 7 June 2015

Student’s Pen*s goes missing in UNIPORT


A level 100 student of History and Diplomatic Studies at the University of Portacourt  early yesterday encountered an ordeal when he had a handshake with a level 400 student of medicine and surgery and immediately he felt incomplete and he checked to notice that his penis was missing and he raised an alarm immediately.


All thanks to the Great Madelites in hostels that came to his rescue, but before any explanation from the penis taker, sstudent had already descended on him and he later confessed he took the penis and pleaded that they should give him time to bring back the missing penis but the students were not patient and continued with the beating before the school security came to take up the matter which have been taken up now by the Nigerian Police Choba for further investigation.



Source: NUS

Saturday, 6 June 2015

Crystal weds Jewel

Temitope Davidson Lucas walked down the aisle with his beautiful wife, Opejesu Christianah today, 6th of June 2015 at the Levites Centre in Ibadan, the Oyo state Capital.

The glamorous wedding which had among many other dignitaries Barrister Adeoye, Pastor Segun & Dr. Adeola Oduyebo, Pastor & Mrs Jubee present.

Guest were treated to sumptuous meals and drinks at the reception which took place at SDM Event Centre, Secretariat road, Ibadan.





Dead Students ‘Write’ Exams At Federal Polytechnic, Oko

There is confusion at the Federal Polytechnic, Oko, Anambra State, following a startling revelation that certain dead students of the institution were graded and awarded marks in recent semester examinations. A rights group, International Society for Civil Liberties and Rule of Law opened the can of worms in a petition to the school authorities recently The petition entitled: “Complaints Against Wrongful Allocation of Results to Deceased Students’: A call for Investigation and Redress, alleged that “one of the deceased students awarded marks in exams he never participated was Late Ezeh Uchenna with registration number FPO/SLT/ND/ R1/012/038.


The petition was signed by the Chairman of the group’s Board of Trustees, Mr. Emeka Umeagbalasi. According to the group, “The said Uchenna was given upper credit (3.05) and awarded 67 in Cell Biology, 81 in Organic Chemistry, 60 in Physical Chemistry, 49 in Electricity and Magnetism, 44 in Optics and Waves, 66 in Analytical Chemistry, 70 in General Lab Techniques, 69 in Computer Packages and so on. It also alleged that some students who had long left the polytechnic were captured in the last semester examination records of the school, InterSociety said the purpose of its petition was to ensure that the right things were done, noting that some students who complained about the irregularities andrecklessness were being victimized by the school authorities. “Just two days ago, they were called and invited by the school security authorities to come and defend the letter InterSociety wrote to the school and defend their involvement over same. “The students also informed InterSociety that their names have been forwarded to the School’s Anti-Cult Brigade to be treated as common criminals and cultists.


“As a matter of fact, they have gone into hiding; operating amorphously to avoid being physically assaulted and held captive. Their state of mind is also psychologically battered leading to mental torture,”InterSociety said. InterSociety said, “We regard these approaches as very uncalled for, reprehensible, despicable and condemnable. “The school must not be an outlaw and dangle with the provisions of the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria 1999 particularly its Section 35 (personal liberty), 36 (fair hearing) and 39 (freedom of expression). “Your school must also understand that the engine room of the corporate social responsibilities, which it is a party to; is founded on human rights. Students who complain of certain anomalies through duly constituted processes are not only sticklers of due process, but also entitled to fair hearing and free speech or expression. “It saddens our heart that till date no reasonable investigation over the students’ complaints has been commenced and concluded by the school authorities.


It further submitted that “As for the referenced Head of Department, who was newly elevated to the academic rank of Deanship, we demand that she should be called to order and compelled to revisit the issue. As we have earlier demanded, no student of the referenced department should be punished or maltreated over the issue. It noted that“The students’ assertion that the lecturers that handled the referenced courses and exams should be compelled to tender their raw result score sheets for the purpose of verification should be commended and heeded. In his reaction, the Rector of the Polytechnic, Professor Godwin Onu, said he had constituted a committee to investigate the matter, adding it was the work of bad people working to paint the polytechnic black in the eyes of the public. 

10 FIFA bribery scandal articles you have to read

10 FIFA bribery scandal articles you have to read

Wade Pretorius - Sport24

Cape Town - Since the FIFA scandal broke on Wednesday, May 27 the internet has been flooded with information as the story continues to develop. This compilation article points out the 10 articles not to be missed:

1. FIFA officials arrested in Zurich Swiss police raided the Baur au Lac hotel in Zurich and arrested six FIFA officials as part of a US investigation into bribes in football totalling $150 million.


2. Who are Co-Conspirator #15 and #16? Shortly after the US indictment went viral, South Africa's hosting of the 2010 World Cup was thrown into the spotlight and two South Africans were allegedly involved in paying bribes. The speculation over the identity started almost immediately.


3. Government's responds to bribery allegations Sport and Recreation Minister Fikile Mbalula issued a strong statement denying any South African involvement in any bribes relating to the 2010 Soccer World Cup.


4. Despite his election for a fifth term, FIFA president Sepp Blatter announced his shock resignation
In a hastily arranged press conference, Blatter said "FIFA needs a profound overhaul" and announced that a new leader will be elected to run the organisation. Blatter's daughter denied that the bribery scandal played a part in her father's resignation. Nando's take on the matter was HILARIOUS!


5. An explosive letter surfaced which put FIFA's general secretary at the centre of the scandal SAFA president Molefi Oliphant 's letter instructs Valcke to pay the $10m to CONCACAF and further that former FIFA vice-president Jack Warner should implement the Diaspora Legacy Programme.


6. Warner's sons to lift the lid?
Two of Jack Warner's sons, one who is widely believed to have received the briefcase bribe from Co-Conspirator #15, are assisting the FBI in the investigation.


7. Jordaan knew about the payment but denied it was a bribe Conflicting earlier statements from Fikile Mbalula, SAFA president said: “I haven’t paid a bribe or taken a bribe from anybody in my life. We don’t know who is mentioned there (in the indictment)".


8. Mbalula's second press conference See what happened at the second press conference held by Fikile Mbalula .


9. Chuck Blazer admits to 2010 SWC bribe Ailing former FIFA official Chuck Blazer admitted that he and others accepted bribes before the votes that gave the 2010 World Cup to South Africa, according to US court documents.


10. Hawks to investigate the matter. The Hawks are looking into allegations that the SAFA was involved in the Fifa bribery scandal, but denied a formal probe had been started. Bonus 11th article: The Simpsons predicted Jack Warner's arrest! Watch it here!

Soure: Sport24

Friday, 5 June 2015

Nigerian Female Students Invent Urine- Powered Generator








Nigerian Female Students Invent Urine- Powered Generator


Possibly one of the more unexpected products at Maker Faire Africa this year in Lagos is a urine powered generator, created by four girls. The girls are Duro-Aina Adebola (14),Akindele Abiola (14), Faleke Oluwatoyin (14) and Bello Eniola (15).

The generator is on display at an exhibition in Lagos Nigeria where people from the tiniest villages to those from big cities are talking about making stuff. This is part of an initiative by ‘Maker Faire Movement’ which seeks to showcase how traditional handicrafts can be a solution in the wake of expensive robot. Their invention ensures that 1 Liter of urine gives you 6 hours of electricity.

The system works like this:

1. Urine is put into an electrolytic cell, which separates out the hydrogen.

2. The hydrogen goes into a water filter for purification, which then gets pushed into the gas cylinder.

3. The gas cylinder pushes hydrogen into a cylinder of liquid borax, which is used to remove the moisture from the hydrogen gas.

4. This purified hydrogen gas is pushed into the generator.

Source: BBC


Thursday, 4 June 2015


If you have been majorly crushing on a hot #guy but think you see signs he is in love with someone else, it’s time to figure out what’s really going on. Sometimes it’s difficult to spot the signs he has fallen in love with another #girl when you want him badly and it seems like he has no clue that you two would be the perfect couple. So ladies, I’m going to try to clarify the situation for you by revealing the 9 #signs your crush is in love with another girl.

1. THE FRIEND ZONE


One of the #signs he is in love with someone else is that he will treat you as just a friend. You try to flirt with your #crush when you get some alone time with him and he continues to treat you like a friend. If he’s in love with another girl, you could be dancing in a racy negligee and he wouldn’t even notice it. Trying to flirt with a crush that is in love with someone else is a major waste of #time.

2. THE EYES TELL ALL


Check out his eyes when his love interest enters the room. When he makes #eye contact with her, the air appears to light on fire. If he’s in love, he looks at her very differently than he looks at anyone else. One of the signs your crush is in love with another girl is that his #eyes sparkle and light up whenever he is near her. Remember, the eyes are the windows to your soul, so if you #look deep enough, you may see that he loves her.


3. HE’S SO HAPPY


Another one of the #signs he has fallen in love with another girl is that he radiates happiness whenever she is around him. He’s elated because she is in his presence. You will notice him frequently flirting, blushing, laughing and smiling at her. Blame his crazy euphoric feelings on the dopamine flooding his brain whenever humans fall in love.

4. IS IT HOT IN HERE?

One of the most common signs that your crush is in love with another girl is the hot sexual #attraction that they share. Anyone within a 100 foot radius can tell that there is something special between them by the way they interact. If he’s in love, he may barely notice the sexual desirability of other girls. To him, she is the only #girl in the room.

5. ALWAYS TOGETHER


Another one of the signs he has fallen in love with another girl is that he’s spending the majority of his #time with her. He invites her to do just about #everything with him even if its mundane tasks like picking up the dry cleaning. If he’s in love with her, she’s always at his place hanging out with him. You may even see some of her #things at his place.

6. LESS COMMUNICATION


Your #crush is making excuses as to why he is texting, emailing and calling you less. Of course, he’ll apologize and you will probably get the ‘I’m just too busy with work or school to talk’ spiel. You won’t feel as close to him as you did before because there is less communication. He has fallen hard for another #girl my friend if he is constantly talking or texting her.


7. HIS CHOICE OF WORDS


A flashing neon sign that many girls ignore is that he tells you that you are a great friend or my best #girl friend. When you finally reveal your feelings to your #crush, he will say he doesn’t want to ruin the awesome friendship that you guys share. If he has told you straight up that he
doesn’t see you as more than a friend, listen to him. You can’t make him feel something that he doesn’t.


8. HIS HEAD IS IN THE CLOUDS


His head just seems to be in the clouds lately, plus his judgement and remarks just don’t seem like him. This is a sign he could be in love with someone else and it’s #time for you to move on.


9. HE DOESN’T HAVE TIME FOR GUYS’ NIGHT


Not only is he blowing you off, but he is turning down guys’ night as well. If he doesn’t even have time for them, then he is probably in love with someone else and is making all of his#time for her.

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Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie opens up about her father’s kidnapping

My father was kidnapped in Nigeria on a Saturday morning in early May. My brother called to tell me, and suddenly there was not enough breathable air in the world. My father is 83 years old. A small, calm, contented man, with a quietly mischievous humor and a luminous faith in God, his beautiful dark skin unlined, his hair in sparse silvery tufts, his life shaped by that stoic, dignified responsibility of being an Igbo first son. He got his doctoral degree at Berkeley in the 1960s, on a scholarship from the United States Agency for International Development; became Nigeria’s first professor of statistics; raised six children and many relatives; and taught at the University of Nigeria for 50 years. Now he makes fun of himself, at how slowly he climbs the stairs, how he forgets his
cellphone. He talks often of his childhood, endearing and rambling stories, his words tender with wisdom.

Sometimes I record his Igbo proverbs, his turns of phrase. A disciplined diabetic, he takes daily walks and is to be found, after each meal, meticulously recording his carbohydrate grams in a notebook. He spends hours bent over Sudoku. He swallows a handful of pills everyday. His
is a generation at dusk. On the morning he was kidnapped, he had a bag of okpa, apples and bottled water that my mother had packed for him. He was in the back seat of his car, his driver at the wheel, on a lonely stretch between Nsukka, the university town where he lives, and Abba, our ancestral hometown.

He was going to attend a traditional meeting of men from his age group. A two-hour drive. My mother was planning their late lunch upon his return: pounded yam and a fresh soup. They always called each other when either traveled alone. This time, he didn’t call. She called him
and his phone was switched off. They never switched off their phones. Hour after hour, she called and it remained off. Later, her phone rang, and although it was my father’s number calling, a stranger said, “We have your husband.”


Kidnappings are not uncommon in southeastern Nigeria and, unlike similar incidents in the Niger Delta, where foreigners are targeted, here it is wealthy or prominent local residents. Still, the number of abductions has declined in the past few years, which perhaps is why my reaction, in the aftermath of my shock, was surprise. My close-knit family banded together more tightly and held vigil by our phones. The kidnappers said they would call back, but they did not. We waited. The desire to urge time forward numbed and ate my soul. My mother took her phone with her everywhere, and she heard it ringing when it wasn’t. The waiting was unbearable. I imagined my father in a diabetic coma. I imagined his octogenarian heart collapsing.


“How can they do this violence to a man who would not kill an ant?” my mother lamented. My sister said, “Daddy will be fine because he is a righteous man.” Ordinarily, I would never use “righteous” in a non-pejorative way. But something shifted in my perception of language. The veneer of irony fell away. It felt true. Later, I repeated it to myself. My father would be fine because he was a “righteous man.” I understood then the hush that surrounds kidnappings in Nigeria, why families often said little even after it was over. We felt paranoid. We did not know if going public would jeopardize my father’s life, if the neighbors were complicit, if another member of the family might be kidnapped as well. “Is my husband alive?” my mother asked, when the kidnappers finally called back, and her voice broke. “Shut up!” the male voice said. My mother called him “my son.” Sometimes, she said “sir.” Anything not to antagonize him while she begged and pleaded, about my father being ill, about the ransom being too high. How do you bargain for the life of your husband? How do you speak of your life partner in the deadened tone of a business transaction?
“If you don’t give us what we want, you  w/ill never see his dead body,” the voice said.


My paternal grandfather died in a refugee camp during the Nigeria-Biafra war and his anonymous death, his unknown grave, has haunted my father’s life. Those words — “You will never see his dead body” — shook us all. Kidnapping’s ugly psychological melodrama works because it trades on the most precious of human emotions: love. They put my father on the phone, and his voice was a low shadow of itself. “Give them what they want,” he said. “I will not survive if I stay here longer.” My stoic father. It had been three days but it felt like weeks. Friends called to ask for bank-account details so they could donate toward the ransom. It felt surreal. Did it ever feel real to anybody in such a situation, I wondered? The scramble to raise the money in one day. The menacingly heavy bag of cash. My brother dropping it off, through a circuitous route, in a wooded area. Late that night, my father was taken to a clearing and set free. While his blood sugar and pressure were checked, my father kept reassuring us that he was fine, thanking us over and over for doing all we could. This is what he knows how to be — the protector, the father — and he slipped into his role almost as a defense. But there were cracks in his spirit. A drag in his gait. A bruise on his back.

“They asked me to climb into the boot of their car,” he said. “I was going to do so, but one of them picked me up and threw me inside. Threw. The boot was full of things and I hit my head on something. They drove fast. The road was very bumpy.” I imagined this grace-filled man crumpled inside the rear of a rusty car. My rage overwhelmed my relief — that he suffered such an indignity to his body and mind. And yet he engaged them in conversation. “I tried to reach their human side,” he said. “I told them I was worried about my wife.”

The next day, my parents were on a flight to the United States, away from the tainted blur that Nigeria had become. With my father’s release, we all cried, as though it was over. But one thing had ended and another begun. I constantly straddled panic; I was sleepless, unfocused, jumpy, fearful that something else had gone wrong. And there was my own sad guilt: He was targeted because of me. “Ask your daughter the writer to bring the money,” the kidnappers told him, because to appear in newspapers in Nigeria, to be known, is to be assumed wealthy. The image of my father shut away in the rough darkness of a car boot haunted me. Who had done this? I needed to know. But ours was a dance of disappointment with the authorities. We had reported the kidnapping immediately, and the first shock soon followed: State security officials asked us to pay for anti-kidnap tracking equipment, a large amount, enough to rent a two-bedroom flat in Lagos for a year. This, despite my being privileged enough to get personal reassurances from officials at the highest levels.

How, I wondered, did other families in similar situations cope? Federal authorities told us they needed authorization from the capital, Abuja, which was our responsibility to get. We made endless phone calls, helpless and frustrated. It was as though with my father’s ransomed release, the crime itself had disappeared. To encounter that underbelly, to discover the hollowness beneath government proclamations of security, was jarring. Now my father smiles and jokes, even of the kidnapping. But he jerks awake from his naps at the sound of a blender or a lawn mower, his eyes darting about. He recounts, in the middle of a meal, apropos of nothing, a detail about the mosquito- filled room where he was kept or the rough feel of the blindfold around his eyes. My greatest sadness is that he will never forget.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, the author, most recently, of the novel “Americanah” wrote this article for The New York Times